My Guiding Light

Adam Katzman, Jonathan Spiller, David Solooki, Beni Snow

(L-R) Adam Katzman, Jonathan Spiller, David Solooki, Beni Snow

Hi! My name is Jonathan Spiller and I am a member of New England Yachad. Yachad makes me happy to be who I am and has given me so many great friends who support me all the time. A lot of my friends are high school students, but no one cares about my age. I have formed strong bonds with my friends from Yachad and they have fun hanging out with me at Yachad events and outside of Yachad. A few friends and I have gotten together to play basketball and get ice cream, just for fun. My friends always want to hear about how I am doing and we talk about my recent photography exhibits, recent movies I have seen, my watercolor painting class, and anything else I want to talk about. They are patient with me when I speak to them. Sometimes I hesitate when I speak because I am nervous, but I get encouragement from my friends and I take my time speaking. At Yachad, I am not judged in any way when I speak publicly, or in general. The people I’ve met through Yachad think of me as a true friend, and we support and learn from each other. I have learned a lot from my friends – most of all, that I can be myself and do things I like to do. I learned I am not too old to color on paper or go to Bugs Bunny festivals with friends, or to do anything else that I enjoy. High school Yachad participants, like the New England teens from Maimonides School and Gann Academy, are making a difference in people’s lives. My friends from Yachad motivate me to try new things. Yachad is a big part of my personal ner tamid, my guiding light. The light that shines from Yachad shines within me.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Our Way Gemach: Changing Lives One Hearing Aid at a Time

Imagine a child with a severe hearing loss being told that she can use a hearing aid while in school, but that when she goes home she must leave it in the classroom! For the rest of the day, she will not hear.” Audiologist Batya Jacob, director of Educational Services at Yachad, cringes in frustration at the thought, knowing well that this scenario is often the case.

The problem is that hearing aids can cost from $1,500 – $5,000 each, and many people need two. Because hearing aids and listening devices are classified as “optional prosthetic devices” many insurance companies will not cover the cost. It doesn’t matter if the hearing-impaired individual is a child, adult or senior. If a family cannot afford a device, he or she will go through life not hearing teachers, family, music, religious services, and thousands of other sounds others take for granted.

In some places, a child can receive a hearing aid on loan from the school district. But because it is school property, it cannot leave the premises. The child must muddle through the rest of the day and weekends trapped in a disability that could have been rectified.

And that’s where the Our Way Hearing Aid Gemach (free loan agency) comes in. Batya thought of the idea three years ago and suggested it to Our Way Director Rabbi Eliezer Lederfeind. With his enthusiastic support, she started collecting used hearing aids and contacted a select number of hearing aid dealers nationwide who will work with the organization to fit the aid to the recipient’s ear.

“It’s quite simple really,” she explains. “When someone needs a hearing aid, they send me their audiogram, essentially a copy of their hearing test results. I analyze the need and delve into my drawer full of donated hearing aids to find ones that will match their specifications. I send out two sets at a time for the recipient to try. They can use their own dealer to fit it properly, or one we recommend.”

The recipient keeps what can be used and sends back the rest. So far, the arrangement has worked well. There are twenty-five sets out right now, bringing the precious gift of sound to people of all ages. An infant born with severe hearing loss can develop in a normal auditory environment. A child can achieve success in school, play with friends and participate in family activities. A senior citizen can enjoy the company of friends; attend concerts, recreational activities and classes; and hear the voices of beloved grandchildren.

“Of course, the system is not as perfect as I would like,” Batya acknowledges. “The aids don’t always fit or work just right. But having one is far better than not. It’s doing a lot of good.”

Not content with simply providing free hearing aids, Batya spearheaded a campaign to have the classification of hearing devices legally changed by Congress from “optional” to “essential prosthetic devices.” Her petition was circulated by Our Way and delivered to members of Congress in February.

“If we can get the status of these devices changed, insurance companies will be encouraged to pay for essential audiological testing, hearing aid devices and their maintenance,” she explains. “If that happens, there may no longer be a need for the Our Way Gemach, and that would be wonderful.”

For information on the Our Way Hearing Aid Gemach contact batyaj@ou.org.

To donate a hearing aid, please send it to Batya Jacob at: Our Way, 11 Broadway, 13th floor, New York, NY 10004.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Broadening Our Scope- Yachad’s Professional Conferences Share Expertise

WinterConferenceFor thirty years, Yachad has been advocating for the inclusion of those with disabilities within the Jewish community. In recent years, however, the organization has been able to reach beyond our immediate Jewish circles, sharing the experience and expertise of its professional staff with the general community.

“As part of the wider disabilities professionals’ community we are responsible for educating our colleagues, and in turn being educated by our colleagues,” states Dr. Jeffrey Lichtman, international director of Yachad. “Yachad is great at providing its services to our members and their families, but we realize that while we may have many pieces of the puzzle, we don’t have all of the pieces. The more individuals and agencies interact and share information, the better it will be for the people we serve.”

“Yachad provides these services and works with other agencies, schools and organizations to make sure they are on the cutting edge of special needs education, technology and resources. It’s our responsibility to ensure that every agency servicing the special needs community is well equipped with knowledge and know-how,” adds Eli Hagler, associate director of Yachad.

To fulfill that mission, Yachad director of Social Work Deborah Berman, LCSW, developed a Continuing Education Conference for disability services professionals. Its goal is to further develop their professional skills as well as enable them to network with agencies across the spectrum of services.

“It’s no longer realistic for a practitioner to utilize a one-size-fits-all approach to client matters,” Deborah explains. “Working with individuals with special needs requires a practitioner to be a sociologist, an historian, a detective, and a counselor. They must understand how an individual’s culture or community responds and reacts to individuals with disabilities, both on the attitudinal level and the social service level.”

The first conference was so successful that Yachad opted to host two such conferences during this school year, in December and in April. The conferences respond to the needs of disabilities workers in many different professional areas. For example, many of those in attendance were key gatekeepers in different agencies working with staff and families. Within Deborah’s workshop on “Direct Care Worker Support and Self Care,” conversation among the group shifted to the struggles of motivational management by supervisors and senior staff. “All managers constantly deal with preventing staff burnout,” Deborah assured the group. “Trying to help your clients deal with difficult situations can make your staff feel unqualified and ineffective. Let’s discuss how a good manager can combat that feeling…” winter conference

Another area explored at the conference was how individuals with disabilities can be enabled to find their place in the workforce. The Jewish Union Foundation (JUF) partners with Yachad in providing comprehensive vocational services to the disability community; Jack Gourdji, JUF executive director, and Michael Appelbaum, JUF program director, led an enlightening session on “Vocational Options for Persons with Disabilities.”

Discussing vocational development with the group, Natalie Marc of VISIONS Center on Blindness said, “For the most part, people with disabilities are very hard working and that supports a high retention rate. Our clients are grateful to be employed and really want to prove that they are capable. Once they have the opportunity to show themselves, they will give it their all. Employers love that. They want to hire someone they know can contribute a lot to the company.”

The high level of expertise demonstrated by the Yachad presenters and those from other agencies whom Yachad enlisted to address the conferences assured a positive, productive outcome. Luigi Clemente, a first-year student in Hunter College’s Master’s program for Rehabilitation Counseling, made it a point to participate. “A large part of working with rehab counseling entails vocational development for people with disabilities, so when my department chair forwarded us an email about the conference, I decided to attend to broaden my horizons and network,” Clemente says. “I’m so glad I came.”

Conferences for Educators

In addition to Continuing Education Conferences for professionals in the disability field, Yachad organizes two major conferences every year for educators in the Greater New York/New Jersey area (and also provides monthly webinars for educators). To better accommodate school budgets and encourage wider participation, conferences for educators in different regions of North America are planned.

“Every child learns differently – every child has strengths, every child has weaknesses –and therefore we need to look at each child as a diverse learner in order to teach them better,” says Batya Jacob, director of Yachad Educational Support Services who coordinates the conferences.

With more than 800 participants, Yachad’s Election Day Educators’ Conference has become a distinguished professional advancement opportunity for New Jersey special education professionals and their colleagues from around the country. This year’s two-day conference, “Creating a Positive School Environment for Diverse Learners,” was attended by representatives of eighty-plus schools from around the country.

“These conferences reach a range of teachers from those who hold degrees in Special Education to those who are trained as typical secular and Jewish teachers and do not have that background,” says Batya. “Today, every classroom has all types of different learners; teachers need to know how to reach each child and how to juggle a class with so many different types of learners.”

NOAM One of the topics addressed by the Election Day Conference was “blended learning,” a combination of direct teacher instruction combined with learning by computer. “Technology has infused virtually every aspect of our lives,” Dr. Lichtman emphasized to the assembled group. “Clearly it is where our students ‘live,’ and has the potential to offer much. But it can never replace the human dynamic, especially in education. And so it is vitally important that we look at how best to utilize technology and blended learning from many vantage points.”

“The hallmark of Yachad is that we can reach a broad gamut of Jewish life,” shares Batya. “It’s not just the Modern Orthodox, not just Charedi (Ultra Orthodox) – it’s really our ability to put 200 people from all parts of Jewish life together to learn from each other, people who all have the same goal of teaching Jewish children, of growing Jewish neshamot (souls). To me, that’s success.”

Of course, the success of all Yachad conferences is determined by how many of the practices shared – whether in the classroom or within an agency – are implemented to any degree. “Remember that you are not doing this for a rush of gratification,” Deborah Berman stressed to a room full of case workers, “we do this because we strive to help others; we are doing God’s work.”

For information on Continuing Education Conferences for disability services professionals contact Deborah Berman at BermanD@ou.org.

For information on Educators’ Conferences contact Batya Jacob at BatyaJ@ou.org.

Batya Rosner is a staff writer at the Orthodox Union.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Jackie & Stephen Moster: Pursuing Yachad’s Mission Together

WeddingIn the summer of 2007, Yachad brought Jackie Green and Stevie Moster together, and today they continue their work as a married couple, extending Yachad’s mission in the Jewish community.

Both Jackie and Stevie, from Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania, became counselors on Yad B’Yad, Yachad’s summer program that brings typically developing teens together with young adults with disabilities on a tour of Israel. During Yad B’Yad, high school students and Yachad members experience the Jewish homeland to the fullest as they ride camels, hike up Masada, participate in special Shabbat programs, and volunteer for community service work. Jackie and Stevie first became a team when they were assigned to similar responsibilities on Yad B’Yad. Their working relationship quickly developed into a friendship, and that friendship eventually evolved into marriage.

Jackie first began her involvement with Yachad through weekend Shabbatonim when she was in high school, soon realizing she was “surrounded by people who brought out the best” in her. She came to view Yachad as a place that “despite everyone’s differences, [we] were getting together, had a common need, interest, and love for Yachad.”

What’s Jackie’s advice for someone’s first time at a Yachad event? “Experience the array of emotions, ask questions, and assume a leadership position when there is a need. Create a welcoming and accepting place for everyone.” With son Sammy

Jackie and Stevie continue to live by Yachad’s mission of “addressing the needs of all individuals with disabilities, ensuring their inclusion in everyday life.” Stevie spreads Yachad’s message about education and advocating for greater understanding, acceptance, and outreach by creating a disabilities study major at University of Maryland. Jackie is a behavior specialist, working in a mainstream school supporting students with challenges in multiple areas, such as social skills. She believes that inclusion is reality. “People should not be included only in certain situations; it should be a way of life.”

The couple brings Yachad’s mission to everything that they do at home as well, teaching their ten-month-old son, Sammy, self-acceptance, sensitivity, and respect for others – all others.

Doria Miller is  a Yachad Social Work intern

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Yaffa & Ari Ash: Pursuing Yachad’s Mission Together

Yachad has changed many lives for the better in immeasurable ways. Two of those people are Yaffa and Ari Ash, who met each other through their work with Yachad. Yaffa was first exposed to Yachad via a Shabbaton she attended with a friend during high school. She soon found her niche, and from 2004 to 2009 she worked as a coordinator, advisor, and counselor in various Yachad programs, including Yad b’ Yad. Meanwhile, her future husband Ari, with whom she shared mutual childhood friends but had never actually met in person, also began to contribute his time and talents to Yachad. Eventually, Yaffa and Ari met at a Yachad Shabbaton in 2007 and became friends. Later that year, at the same site of the Shabbaton where they first met and worked together, Ari proposed. The importance of disability inclusion was instilled in Yaffa from a very early age by her mother, who worked in special education and exposed Yaffa to the diversity of humankind. Yaffa feels that this helped her achieve a greater understanding of how people with disabilities can and should fit as equal and useful members. She and Ari live by this belief in their daily lives, and they work tirelessly to impart the idea of true inclusion and equality to others. ashedited-9970[1]To further that goal, they advise teens to “forget all your expectations” about Yachad inclusion events “and think of it as just hanging out with new people.” This seemingly obvious piece of advice hides a powerful message. Many people in the wider world have unfortunate preconceived – and often downright incorrect – notions of what people with disabilities are like, and also about what it might be like to form social relationships with them. It’s important to remember that people with disabilities are simply people – people with hearts and minds and feelings. They can share so much with you, and you with them. “So get involved,” they encourage young people, “as we did.” And who knows? You might just meet that special someone who shares your values and commitment.

Deborah Berman is the Director of Social Work at Yachad

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

A Yachad Rav for Life: Rabbi Jay Weinstein

rabbiweinsteinFortunate individuals among us have discovered an addiction that’s actually good for you. Better than chocolate or coffee, once you’ve experienced Yachad, you’re instantly, and healthfully, hooked. It becomes an essential part of your life, your family, and sometimes – your job.

Yachad-smitten since high school, Rabbi Jay Weinstein, rav of the Young Israel of East Brunswick, New Jersey, now has his entire shul community passionately involved and clamoring for more.

During his initial four years of leadership, Rabbi Weinstein instituted a Special Needs committee that has successfully integrated children and teens into myriad shul activities including Shabbat groups, nursery school and, starting this summer, Camp Keshet, the first day camp in the tri-state area with a Yachad program. The community also sponsors several well-attended Yachad events each year, including annual Rayim Yachad Shabbatonim for adults over the age of twenty-six.

“I could give a drashah (sermon) with a message about inclusion, but it’s not the same as experiencing it firsthand,” says Rabbi Weinstein. “Holding a Yachad program in our shul, connecting with Yachad members, benefitting from their appreciation of the world around them, their Yiddishkeit, is a much more powerful way to educate.”

And he should know; that’s precisely what captured him, and kept him coming back to Yachad. As a teen growing up in Miami Beach, he never missed South Florida Yachad chapter’s monthly events. His fervor continued beyond high school. While an undergraduate student at Yeshiva University, he served as chapter coordinator for Rayim Yachad in Brooklyn. While studying for ordination he earned an additional degree, a masters in special education. The summer after college graduation, while serving as a counselor in the Yachad bunk at Camp Morasha, Rabbi Weinstein met his future wife, Sharon, also a counselor. He went on to run the first vocational program designing jobs for older members with special needs at Camp Moshava.

When it came time to find a rabbinical position, Rabbi Weinstein’s attachment to Yachad and commitment to inclusion spoke loudly and clearly on his resume. As assistant rabbi of Shaare Tefillah in Dallas, Texas, with the senior rabbi’s encouragement, he launched a thriving Yachad chapter and served as chapter coordinator. Unsurprisingly, now as the rav of Young Israel of East Brunswick, he also assisted with the opening of a Middlesex County (New Jersey) Yachad chapter which drew 120 participants at the synagogue’s most recent Rayim Yachad Shabbaton this past February.

“It’s an inspiration to watch him at a Shabbaton,” says Melissa Rosen, director of the youth department and Camp Keshet. “He’s so at ease; he engages immediately and joyously. Our adult congregants and their children see that and model it. Inclusion has become part of our culture.”

Rabbi Weinstein and Mrs. Weinstein first met at Camp Morasha.

Rabbi Weinstein and Mrs. Weinstein first met at Camp Morasha.

Debbie Schaulewicz, East Brunswick resident for twenty-eight years and chairperson of the Special Needs Committee, concurs. “So many families volunteered to host Yachad members that we had to turn many of them down,” says Schaulewicz. “Friday night Yachad participants ate at their hosts’ home. On Shabbos afternoon the community ate together with the Yachad members. Rabbi Weinstein wanted everyone to mingle with the Yachad members and advisors. This way, it’s very personal.”

Ensuring that Yachad members feel actively involved in Shabbat services, Rabbi Weinstein sees to it that Yachad members and advisors are given aliyot and encourages them to publicly share divrei Torah (insights based on Torah passages). “The most important thing to Rabbi Weinstein is that they feel welcomed and truly part of the community,” says Schaulewicz. “Participants keep telling us they feel so at home in East Brunswick they can’t wait to come back next year.”

Rabbi Weinstein’s infectious devotion to Yachad continues to touch lives – past, present and future. “When my husband got up to give a drashah at a recent Shabbaton, one of the members shouted, ‘Hey Jay!’ He remembered him as his camp counselor and Rayim Yachad coordinator,” says Sharon. “He values making a difference for others, to include them and make their lives richer. His idea of inclusion is that it’s a lifelong goal.”

The shul’s children are growing up with inclusion as a normal part of life. Mrs. Weinstein reports that her seven-year-old daughter treasures her friendship with a girl with Down syndrome. “Their peers are their peers; there’s no separation in their minds,” says Rosen. “It’s very beautiful to see.”

Apparently, the rabbi’s extensive inclusion efforts are also making a difference in his adult congregants’ lives. “We’re all so much more aware of the special needs population and what we can do to include them,” says Schaulewicz. “We’re more sensitive and open-minded; and we’re better people for it.”

Rabbi Weinstein plans to spread the Yachad riches to other synagogues, to show them how it can uplift an entire kehillah. “It’s our responsibility to make our communities and shuls open to people of all abilities,” he says. He cites Dr. Jeffrey Lichtman, international director of Yachad, whom he calls his personal role model: “Don’t say we can’t do it; give all the reasons why we can.” An exemplary inclusion champion, Rabbi Weinstein never runs out of reasons why he and his community can.  Weinstein Family Picture

Bayla Sheva Brenner is a staff writer at the Orthodox Union.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Meet a Yachad Family

The Ungar siblings: Adina, Tzvi, Shoshana, Yachad member Sara, and Dani

The Ungar siblings: Adina, Tzvi, Shoshana, Yachad member Sara, and Dani

Meet the Ungar family of Oak Park, Michigan. Leah Ungar, mother of Yachad member Sara, credits Sara’s siblings with encouraging Sara to live a full life.

It wasn’t always easy. Sisters Shoshana and Adina were nine and ten, respectively, when Sara was born. Too young to fully comprehend the impact of her developmental delays, they noticed how much more time Sara required from their parents. “Though we always loved Sara, there were frustrating times that we simply didn’t understand her, that she couldn’t express herself,” reflects Shoshana.

She adds, “At the beginning, understanding Sara was an adjustment, but now it’s routine. We know her needs and what she’s capable of. And as we’ve grown up, it’s less challenging to read my sister. She’s wonderful, adorable – and has a great sense of humor! My brothers adore her, but brothers and sisters deal differently. Over the years, as we have developed as a family and as individuals, there’s still a sense of protection around our sister. We want others to see Sara as we see Sara.”

“We learned a lot about love with Sara,” shares Adina. “And she definitely taught our family to have patience, lots of patience.”

From a young age, Sara’s parents enrolled her at both the local Bais Yaakov and the public school system. That way she could receive the services most beneficial for her vari­ous cognitive and social issues, while enjoying an inclusive experience within the Jewish school as much as possible.

About five years ago, Mrs. Ungar read about Yachad summer programs in an article in The Jewish Press and reached out to Nechama Braun, Yachad Summer Programs administrator, about registering Sara for the summer. Though Sara had attended previous camps, her social networks did not hold on.

“I was worried how Sara’s experience would be at a new camp 600 miles away from home, but once we brought her to the camp, we saw how well run the program is, and we knew it would be great,” recalls Mrs. Ungar. “Yachad Morasha is wonderful and my daughter looks forward to camp every year.”

At Morasha, Sara made friends with whom she communicates all year long, including one individual she talks to every day. In fact, one of the highlights of attending a recent Shabbaton in Chicago was being able to reunite with camp friends.

“Sara loves being social and thrives when she is at camp,” smiles her sister Shoshana. “It’s helpful for our parents to know she is happy and excited about her summer plans. And while we make our own plans for activities while she is away, we don’t send her away because we need a respite. We want what’s best for her.”

Since Yachad opened a local chapter last year in Detroit, Sara has become a vibrant participant. The highlight of her week? Hands down, everyone in the family knows that every Thursday Sara looks forward to “Pizza and Parshah.”

Sara’s parents appreciate that the Detroit Yachad chapter programming has presented their daughter with outlets she hasn’t had before. “My daughter has simchas hachayim – a joy for life – and she is always happy to try something new,” says her father, Dr. David Ungar. “At Yachad, she gets together with friends who are so easy to be with, who accept her for who she is. And she picks up on the positivity.”

The family is gratified that now Sara often turns to the phone to speak with her friends. “Yachad has been incredible for my sister, giving her a whole social scene she didn’t have previously,” offers Adina. “Though she has a lot of life to her, sometimes she can get into herself and become withdrawn. Yet around her friends, or when she finds out about a Yachad event, or when she’s counting down to leave for camp, she’s more alive, more in tune.”

“Her happy anticipation toward the next event keeps her engaged with us,” remarks Shoshana. “We can say ‘let’s go shopping,’ ‘let’s talk about it,’ ‘let’s start packing’ because we want to be involved with her. When it comes to preparing for a Yachad event, she will let us do that.”

This winter, Sara travelled to Israel with Yachad and Israel Free Spirit (the Taglit-Birthright Israel program coordinated by the Orthodox Union). “Sara is not always gushy when she talks, but I get tears in my eyes remembering when she first told me ‘Mommy, I love Israel,’” Mrs. Ungar recalls. “She had such a great time! Yachad took her from north to south and all around Jerusalem.” When she returned home from the ten-day trip, Sara was able to relive the experi­ence and share with family members exact memories from a video Yachad staff put together as a memento.

“Birthright and Yachad provided the experience of a lifetime for my daughter,” Leah adds. “I can send Sara without a family member to a Shabbaton, to camp, to Israel – that’s something I could never have done without Yachad. I know that it’s properly run, with guidance by those who are well trained and equipped to handle people with special needs. It’s a priceless gift, not only for Sara, but for our entire family.”

 

For information on the Detroit chapter of Yachad contact DetroitYachad@ou.org.

Batya Rosner is a staff writer at the Orthodox Union.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

The Journey of a Lifetime

Zev at the Kotel for the first time

Zev at the Kotel for the first time

“I can’t say it was a ‘dream come true’ because it wasn’t even a dream,” says Miriam Kahn, a single mom from West Hempstead, New York. “There was no way I could picture my son Zev ever going to Israel. Because of his multiple health issues it takes a lot of plan­ning just to take a short trip, let alone send him thousands of miles away for ten days.”

When Miriam first heard that Yachad was offering a free trip to Israel for young adults with special needs, a gift from Taglit- Birthright Israel in conjunction with OU Israel Free Spirit, she dismissed the idea of including Zev. Though he wears braces on his legs he can walk with a walker, but he would have to be in a wheelchair for such a rigorous trip. Moreover, he is medically fragile, has had numerous back surgeries and can eat only puréed food.

But possibilities began to perk in her mind. What if she could find a way to make it work? Would Yachad take on the responsibility for his care? “I decided to go ahead and apply, to see what would happen. I didn’t really think they’d accept him.”

She had underestimated the perseverance, resourceful­ness and idealism of Yachad staffers. Nicole Bodner, direc­tor of New York Yachad who runs the Birthright Israel trip, told Miriam she was willing to make all the arrangements necessary for Zev to go on the trip. Yes, extra steps would have to be taken, but she was quite sure that she and her staff could deal with them.

“They were great! Nicole was so willing to take on the challenge,” says Miriam. “I started getting excited that Israel would become a reality for Zev, because I go there often to visit my married daughter. All Zev knew of the experience is that I get on a plane, and I bring back pictures. To him, Israel was just photos of family members at the Kotel, not a real place.”

The first thing to plan was how Zev would have the food he needed. As it happened, Miriam had planned to be in Israel in November for a family event, just six weeks before the Yachad trip. “So I bought my daughter a freezer as a gift and I spent a few days cooking and puréeing and packaging food for Zev. I also prepared powdered soymilk in little packets, so the Yachad staffers could just shake them with water to give him his drinks.”

With all in readiness, she returned home. When the big day came, she accompanied the group on the flight. “It was Zev’s first time on such a long flight and I was little nervous about it. But right after we took off, I went over to where he was seated, among the group of Birthright Israel participants and wonderful counselors, and asked him, ‘How’s it going?’ He gave me a broad grin and a thumbs-up. When we landed, my daughter was at the airport with ‘Round One’ of Zev’s food supply, enough for their upcoming three-day trip to northern Israel.”

While Zev was touring with the Yachad group, Miriam stayed with her daughter in Ramat Eshkol, Jerusalem. She resisted the temptation to follow the tour bus all over Israel in her car. “I davened well that there should be no medical emergencies, believe me. But overall I felt calm and optimistic. The Yachad staff understood all of his restrictions and I saw that I could trust them. They were so attentive to Zev’s every need and determined to include him in every activity. I wasn’t sure how they would accomplish that, but I felt confident they would try.”

“Miriam Kahn was fantastic,” attests Nicole. “She kept us supplied with Zev’s food, including a thermos to keep it hot till lunchtime. Dinner was heated in the hotel’s kitchen. When it became clear that it was not always possible to do that, she supplied us with a microwave for Zev’s room. We carried it on trips with us. She seemed surprised that we would go the extra mile for Zev to join us in all of the fun.”

Like all of the twenty-four participants on the trip, Zev made new friends, traveled the length and breadth of Israel, visited a chocolate factory, took the cable car to the top of Masada, took in parks, danced, played the drums, and went jeep-riding in the Negev. “We had to be mindful that Zev had back surgery, so he rode in a jeep that stayed on the road, rather than bumping over the sand, but we all met at the same destination,” Nicole explains. At Beit Hagalgalim (House of Wheels), a recreational/ educational center for children with physical challenges in wheelchairs, the Yachad group prepared flower­pots to landscape the site. Then one of the Yachad participants suggested painting them, to make them even more beautiful. Zev painted happily along with the rest – even playfully painting the face of a nearby staffer.

Zev Kahn & Max Cohen- Thumbs up at the chocolate factory!

Zev Kahn & Max Cohen- Thumbs up at the chocolate factory!

“Zev brought laughter and joy to the whole group,” beams Nicole. “He has a sparkling personality and a great sense of humor. And he had a specific tease for everyone – like a high-five, or a thumbs-up he assigned to every member of the staff. Everybody wanted to hang out with him.”

The high point of the trip was when the group went to the Kotel. Miriam and her family were waiting when they arrived at the overlook from where you can catch a first glimpse. As two staffers lifted Zev up so he could see, his face lit up with recognition and he gasped, “Oh my God!” He had made it. He was at the Kotel, the Wall he had seen in photo after family photo. “It was incredible to see Zev go with the group across the plaza, right up to the Kotel and put a kvital (prayer on a paper note) in one of the chinks,” says Miriam. “Everybody was dancing and singing. I couldn’t stop crying.”

In the several months since they returned to the States, Zev keeps up with his Yachad friends on Facebook and Face Time. “And he looks at the pictures taken in Israel every single day. It gives him such joy,” says Miriam. “I had always dreamed of making Aliyah,” she confides, “but I didn’t know how Zev would adjust. Now that I see how much he loves Israel, I’m going to make plans. I’ve got to research how we will manage there, but from our experience with this trip, I’m sure it can be done. Now that would be a dream-come-true.”

For more information on Taglit-Birthright Israel: Israel Free Spirit Yachad trips to Israel contact Nicole Bodner at bodern@ou.org.

Charlotte Friedland is the editor of Belong.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org

Yachad Member Blasts Off Into Computer Game Career

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Deep in the heart of Texas a star is shining bright, and his name is Aaron Winston. A dedicated Yachad member born and bred in the Lone Star State, Aaron is pursuing a career at the nonPareil Institute, where he works as a staff programmer on various projects released on the iTunes store, or the Google Play store. He is the creator of SpaceApe, a quick, single player game that involves maneuvering a Russian Cosmonaut Ape named Dmitri around outer space; players aim to scoop up bananas while dodging asteroids, comets and aliens.

“Socially, I believe Yachad prepared me for my job at non­Pareil, as it gave me confidence in myself,” Aaron, 22, shares. “I have autism and Asperger’s. I didn’t always want friends; but Yachad helped me to understand the importance and benefits of having friends, of having a social network, and that I don’t have to do anything alone.”

Aaron was diagnosed six years ago and participated in Yachad’s Getaway summer program the following summer, at age 17. Yachad Getaway is a two-week retreat where Yachad members and staff create all of their activities and meals. “Yachad Getaway was the first time Aaron spent away from home, yet I felt confident in the program from the questions they asked my son to assess if the program would be a good fit,” recalls his mother Cindy. “It was an eye-opening experience for all of us to see how much he benefitted from independence. He introduced us to his friends. It was amazing to see what he was capable of in the right environment.

“Yachad was such a plus for him! But when we picked him up from that first positive experience of Getaway, we were thinking, ‘now what?’ He’d had a glimpse of what friends were, so it was hard to go back to the solitude that had been ‘normal.’ Until then, he hadn’t realized how small his world was.”

Aaron joined the small Yachad chapter in Dallas, participating in various Shabbatonim and in numerous Yachad summer programs including Yad B’Yad, an inclusive summer trip touring the Jewish homeland. He always looked forward to the next Yachad event. It was at Yachad Summer Program’s Simchaton, a reunion taking place over Simchat Torah, that Aaron learned about Team Yachad. He had already been working with a trainer, so he decided to sign up and added more treadmill time to his exercise regime.  Mostly fast-walking, he completed the 2011 ING Half-Marathon in Miami as a proud member of Team Yachad. He went on to complete it again the following year.

And the Simchaton was the source of another important discovery. Aaron’s parents learned of the nonPareil Institute in nearby Plano, Texas, which provides technical training and employment to individuals on the autism spectrum.

“ I ha d a l w a y s b e e n interested in video games and was good at school, pretty detail oriented – but I had tried college and found it too overwhelming; I had a lot of anxiety,” Aaron states frankly. “The only pre-requisite for nonPareil is to be on the autism spectrum. I didn’t have real experience in the technology field, but I was willing to apply myself.”

Aaron went through a series of training courses in software development and programming before the company hired him fulltime. “I find working here fun as well as gratifying in many different areas,” Aaron says. “And while I do enjoy programming software, I realize that working here is not entirely about being a programmer – it’s about helping others build skills. One of the strengths of this company is that we employees are not competing against each other.”

Cindy Winston notes, “From the beginning, Aaron was ready and excited to put in a full day at nonPareil. I think a lot of that enthusiasm was from positive experiences he had at Yachad. With Yachad, he felt that he didn’t have to pretend, and once he found that same acceptance at nonPareil, he hit the ground running.”

Aaron agrees that there is something special about working with others on the spectrum. “Not that everyone here is the same, but you can understand what it’s like to be in their shoes,” he says. “I’m not perfect interacting with everyone, but my main goal coming to work every day isn’t just getting my job done. We’re a community, caring about each other. When that’s the main thing, it helps people get along and feel they’re in a safe environment.”

“Aaron has been the very type of person our company needs to be successful,” states Dan Selec, founder and chief executive officer of the nonPareil Institute. “As a student, he invested his time well, and was always reaching for more knowledge and ability than he had the day before. Aaron came into our program with little computer knowledge, but showed himself to be a hardworking and dedicated member of our nonPareil crew. Step by step, Aaron has built himself into a productive part of our organization.”

Aaron can be found at the office 10:00 am to 6:00 pm, though he’s often sighted there early and after-hours. He has numerous responsibilities: as a games and software programmer for the company, he works with a team to create tools for program scripting. SpaceApe took him a month and half to create, working with a team of artists on design concepts and implementation. Smaller games could take less time, according to Aaron.

He also serves as a mentor, spending time daily helping others learn how to learn, building their confidence, and trying to help them achieve personal success. “Aaron has great leadership skills: he is patient and concerned for his teammate’s growth and participation. This may be in helping them with coursework, or by simply being there for them when they need someone to talk to. He also leads group sessions, ranging from coding to design,” Selec confirms.

Aaron credits his involvement with Yachad for building up his self-confidence to be a success socially and to apply himself on the job. That boost of confidence from Yachad carries over into Judaism as well. As a proud Jew, Aaron wears his yarmulke to work every day. He learns Torah every morning with a rabbi before work, a practice he has enjoyed for the past five years. As tzedakah is one of his favorite mitzvot, he’s careful to give ma’aser (tithe) from his salary. In fact, in recent months, as Aaron would sit down to figure out his finances, he has applied his ma’aser money to support the members of Team Yachad.

One mark of his success is that last October Aaron was invited to participate in a panel discussion at Yachad’s High School Leadership Conference, where high school leaders from across the country come together for a weekend of leadership training aimed at helping them enhance the Yachad program in their community. Aaron shared his own story, explaining to the teenagers how his disability actually helped him succeed in securing and keeping his job.

“For me to have a job means that I have a mission in life to do positive things for myself and for others,” Aaron re­flects. “Being busy is very good for me, and making money is good, of course. Having a job that pushes me to expand my capabilities is positive, and I find that very fulfilling.” 2014-03-06 14.03.40

 

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Batya Rosner is a staff writer at the Orthodox Union.

This is an article from Belong Magazine 2014. For more information, or to receive your own copy contact belong@ou.org